A doctor, a lawyer, a little boy and a priest were out for a Sunday afternoon flight on a small private plane. Suddenly, the plane developed engine trouble. In spite of the best efforts of the pilot, the plane started to go down. Finally, the pilot grabbed a parachute and yelled to the passengers that they better jump, and he himself bailed out.
Unfortunately, there were only three parachutes remaining.
The doctor grabbed one and said "I'm a doctor, I save lives, so I must live" and jumped out.
The lawyer then said, "I'm a lawyer and lawyers are the smartest people in the world. I deserve to live." He also grabbed a parachute and jumped.
The priest looked at the little boy and said, "My son, I've lived a long and full life. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Take the last parachute and live in peace."
The little boy handed the parachute back to the priest and said, "Not to worry Father. The smartest man in the world just took off with my back pack."
Well, we are not looking at the morale of the characters here. Lets understand why did Lawyer jump with backpack while he was trying to save himself. Honestly, it could be any of us: under different life pressures, we have taken a step which, later, turned out not right.
One needs to have their sense of cool to take a right step during an upheaval, isn't it? Even if the step has to benefit just one person; let alone thinking about others or for larger good.
How many of us think: it is possible to be calm in the face of chaotic situations? Well, right now, I and you may not be able to - which is OK. But is it a possibility? If no, we better end the conversation here.
Right now, I and you may not be able to - which is OK.
But, some of us think it is possible or interested to give it an ear to further discussion. In the story, at the end, only the saint turned out to be a "saint", and the boy simply self-assured with his presence of mind. He managed to think straight in a matter of life-and-death. The boy does illustrate, calm in chaos is a possibility.
If I say,
- irritation is "natural" when .....
- being upset is "obvious" when .....
- getting hurt is "natural" when .....
Then, jumping with backpack is "obviously natural", as it creates anxiety and stress in such turmoil
It feels "obvious" when I am not aware of my choices. Something is "obvious" to machines we create: ON=on, OFF = off, 5 = Speed 5. I can choose my response, which is a good news! And it feels "natural" when people around pick similar responses as I do. But, the question is, are "natural" and "obvious" responses comfortable and beneficial to me?
I can choose my response, which is a good news!
Like most things, being calm is a competence to be built: by exploring my options and training myself in smaller situations. And, when the bigger ones come, being cool comes "naturally to me".